Five things to avoid when considering divorce

By Lenore Rice

If you are considering a separation or divorce you no doubt have many questions and concerns. How you set about divorcing is very important for the future relationship you will have with your ex-partner and any children you have together. Here are 5 things you should avoid in the build up to and during the divorce process:

  1. Separation or divorce is ultimately about trying to make the cleanest break possible so that all parties involved can get started with the next stage of their lives. You should think in terms of trying to reach a solution that works for you, your partner, and most of all your children if you have any - avoid language about divorce ‘battles’ and ‘winning’ or ‘beating’ your partner.

  2. Avoid quick decisions at the outset – particularly with regard to things like selling the family home.

  3. Your children are not getting a divorce - avoid negative language about your partner in front of the children.

  4. Don’t believe all you hear from divorced friends - all divorces are different. Avoid comparing your situation to someone else's, especially when it comes to the division of assets and arrangements in respect of your children.

  5. Avoid court if possible - consider alternatives to court such as a collaborative law divorce, often referred to as the ‘friendly divorce’.

If you require legal advice from a divorce solicitor in Northern Ireland, contact Wilson Nesbitt in Belfast or Bangor by calling 0800 840 1363.

We specialise in family law and the collaborative law process in Northern Ireland. Our team of family law experts will guide you on the process and accompany you during each stage of the negotiations.